Hair Today... Coffee Tomorrow
Date: Monday, September 6th, 2010 at 4:28 pm | Category: Restaurant News
Families are such complex and intricate tapestries and yet one loose thread can unravel the entire dynasty. Why is it that it’s so easy to not speak to another family member over something as simple as a misinterpreted remark that wouldn’t in the outside world be given a second thought? Or at best would be disallowed because that same comment might be made by someone on the outside – someone, who unlike a close family member, you wouldn’t trust to cover your back. And because of that lack of trust and love, you would ignore those simple slights or derogatory remarks hoping that everyone in the outside world would think highly of you.
The world, outside of the family circle, could never understand the dynamics of a close knit multi-generational family – the rivalry, though not necessarily sibling becomes second nature – striving in an unconscious way to be the best, most favored man or woman in the entire family network. Just thinking about the complexities makes one tired especially noting that the generational width may extend beyond a hundred count.
Holidays are the hardest when there is a crack in the family glue. Being left out or ignored plays hard on feelings especially when a rift separates those as close as sisters and brothers. The guess work as to where everyone stands and on whose side you are aligned boggles your mind especially when the “he said she said” never really tells the true tale, which aligns itself somewhere in the middle of the chasm.
Another interesting phenomenon that occurs in a family falling out is that outsiders are never privy to the inner workings of this most recent split. To the rest of the world it is a very special and unusual grouping – this large extended family -bringing with it envy and jealousy from those who wish they could be a part.
Little do they know how hard that task is and yet…..when danger, illness, or outside discord occurs, the wagons circle and once more all hands will pull to protect that which is most cherished – family.
Our cafe is run by family, initiated by family, and relies on family tradition to keep us one of the most sought after gathering places for the feeling of days gone by. To all the families out there, remember, there is ever a more trusted love than the bond that ties a family together……make sure everyone you cherish in your family knows how important they are to you.
Stop in our cafe in Uptown Kingston…..tell us you love your family and have a free cup of coffee or tea on us.
so true! As an almost insider to your family, I would say that, while there are issues that you guys have to deal with – at least there are issues that you guys have to deal with. It’s better than not.